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rustic ring bearer box
rustic ring bearer box

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To See or Not To See

Written with love, by Felicia Zammit-McMann

This is going to sound like a totally random question, but how many of you out there wear glasses? (I told you it was a random question.) The reason I ask is because, if you do, you will probably be faced with some stressful, if not perhaps insulting, questions regarding them and your wedding day.

I’ve worn glasses since I was 9 years old. Without them, I can’t see a thing past six inches from my face. I never even notice them any more, and they are so light on my face that I sometimes even forget I have them on. I’m not fully dressed in the morning until I put my glasses on. It’s part of who I am.

So during my engagement, I was shocked by how much of an annoyance they were, not to me, but to everyone else. During my first dress appointment, the consultant asked me if I would be wearing my glasses on my wedding day. That question came out of left field. “Why would I not wear them and why do you care?” That’s what I wanted to tell her, but instead I gave her a quizzical look, nodded my head and said yes, then changed the subject thinking to myself that it was an odd question – an odd question that suddenly started giving me a complex and making me self-conscious about wearing glasses. I felt like I was 9 years old again wearing glasses for the first time.

I shrugged it off after a while, but then it happened again! Twice!! I went to my hair and makeup trial a few months later, and both my hairdresser (who I’ve been going to forever) and makeup artist asked me the same question. Okay, what gives? No one cares that I wear glasses any other day, but now, all of a sudden, they’re making a fuss over it? Granted, you never see brides online or in magazines wearing glasses, but that’s not real life!

I was asked this question so much that I actually convinced myself that maybe I should try contacts and made an appointment with the eye doctor to get fitted for them. In hind sight, I can’t believe I did that. I hate how I look without glasses, so why, on the biggest day of my life, would I want to change a core part of who I am and what I look like?

What a nightmare that appointment was! I won’t get into the details, but right then and there, I put an end to that. If people didn’t like my glasses, then that’s something they were going to have to deal with. I was going to wear them, proudly!!

Months go by now, and it’s our wedding day. We’ve said our “I do’s” and we’re taking pictures, when all of a sudden, our photographer suggested I take some photos without my glasses. Seriously, again?!?! Okay, fine, a few photos, that’s it! I did it and wondered why. I’m squinting in all those photos because I can’t see the camera I’m supposed to be looking at. Not to mention, I was also getting a headache from not being able to see.

You know that stress you get when during your wedding planning process you want to please everyone and make everyone happy? This is what happens when you focus on that. You end up getting yourself frustrated and making yourself unhappy, when there is no need.

For me it’s glasses, but perhaps some of you have tattoos people want covered, or different colored hair people want dyed, or people telling you to lose or gain weight, or to do this or to do that because it’s your wedding day.

Yes, it’s your wedding day and here’s what you need to remember:

You want to be yourself on your wedding day, not someone others want you to be.

If you succumb to that pressure, you will regret it. You have to ask yourself this question: “Am I going to regret this 20 years from now?” If that answer is “Yes” or “Maybe,” do something about it for your wedding day. If you truly answer “No,” then by all means, do what makes you happy. Others will get over it, but you don’t want any regrets.

Is there something that others have been telling you to change about yourself for your wedding day? How have you dealt with that?

8 Wedding Traditions You Don't Need to Follow

Wedding traditions are fun but they just aren't for everyone. From the rings to the vows to dancing the night away, there is a particular "Itinerary of Events" that every couple is expected to follow on their wedding day. But I am here to tell you, that there are some traditions that can totally be thrown out.

Choose what you like and toss what you don't!

 

1. The Wedding Cake

Bleudog Fotography

Bleudog Fotography

A tiered cake is one of the symbols of a wedding. But I've come to learn, that not that many people really love cake. Never have I ever seen an entire cake eaten at a wedding and to make matters worse, brides and grooms often tell me that they are not fans of cake either. So the hours and hours of hard work are (literally) tossed down the drain.

So why not come up with something fun that you and your guests will all actually enjoy! Find some of our favorite wedding cake alternatives here!

 

2. Wedding Favors

Nancy Orozco Photography

Nancy Orozco Photography

Just like the cake, the wedding favors are left there on the table at the end of the night. So if you don't have the budget for them or you can't think of something that your guests will actually want to take home, then what's the use?

I mean, you have provided them a night of delicious dinner and dancing. So that's enough in my eyes!

 

3. Menu Cards

There are four possible options when it comes to the meal on your wedding day:

1. Your guests have told you what their meal choice is via your RSVP cards.
2. You are having a buffet so guests get to choose what they want that evening.
3. Your meal is being served family-style so everyone gets everything.
4. You have a plated meal but everyone is getting the same thing!

I can't seem to find one single reason why someone would need a menu. Wasted money anyone?

 

4. Daddy walking you down the aisle

Rachel Solomon Photography

Rachel Solomon Photography

Not everyone has a dad who is living, a dad who is part of their lives, or a dad who is an influential person to her. So why would you have someone "give you away" to your new husband who you don't love, cherish, and look up to? If that person isn't your biological dad, then throw that tradition right out the window and choose someone else. Or just walk by yourself!

 

5. The Wedding Party

You don't have to have a Best Man and you don't have to have a Maid of Honor. You don't have to have a flower girl and you don't have to have a ring bearer. In fact, you aren't required to have a wedding party at all!

Yes, it's fun but it does cost money. And there could be stress and jealousy and plenty of other factors that get in the way of that fun!

 

6. Matchy-Matchy

Two words: color palette.

Your bridesmaids dresses don't have to match (because we all look good in different styles), your flowers don't have to perfectly match the bows on the chairs, and your tablecloths don't have to match your ceremony chairs.

Choose a color palette rather than a color. Because in my eyes, those different shades really bring a wedding to life!

 

7. The First Look

Long goes the tradition where the groom sees the bride for the first time as she walks down the aisle. While this was something that was very important to myself and my husband (we did first touch photos instead), there are a million reasons why a first look has its advantages:

Nancy Orozco Photography

Nancy Orozco Photography

- Raw emotions are captured (aka he may not cry with all of those eyes on him at the ceremony)
- You get to spend some quality time alone.
- You get to take all of your photos BEFORE the wedding so you can enjoy the rest!
- Cocktail hour anyone? If you are excited about those appetizers, then choose a first look!
 

8. Reception Traditions

The first dance, garter toss, bouquet toss, mother-son dance, father-daughter dance...and the list goes on. These are all "activities" that you would expect to see at a wedding but if any make you feel uncomfortable (ahemm...garter removal), they ix-nay them right away!

Nancy Orozco Photography

Nancy Orozco Photography

Wedding Cake Alternatives