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A Little Marriage Homework

There is no hidden meaning to the title of this post. Yes, I've got homework for you to do! But don't get scared away too fast - because marriage is hard work! And this is just the beginning :)

When my husband and I were going through pre-marital counseling, we were pretty much eye-to-eye on everything.

Who is going to take care of the dishes? What does a "clean home" mean to you? Will someone stay home to care for the kids? What are your views on finances?

Being eye-to-eye on all of the "tough" questions left us feeling confident after each session and it wasn't until one of the very last sessions that our Pastor asked us a question that left me a little stumped. Well, I guess I just really had to think hard about it!

Why do you want to get married?

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"Well, because I love him, of course!"

And as those words rolled off of the tip of my tongue, I realized that I had just given a confident, but terrible answer.

I know that you're probably thinking, "No answer is a bad answer." But mine was.

I love my parents and I love my friends. I love my sisters, my grandparents, and even my pets! But does that mean I am going to marry them? Of course not!

Some of you may even have had deep loving relationships with exes, but you didn't marry them either...or maybe you did. So there has to be some other reason for marriage, right?

Are you getting married because your religion says you should?
Are you getting married because your parents have matched you with your spouse?
Are you getting married because that is just how your family has done it for years and years?
Are you getting married because that is what you are "supposed" to do when you fall in love?
Companionship? Babies? Someone to take care of your fiances so you never have to work?
Or because all of your friends are doing it?

People have babies and families and even buy houses together without getting married. People even live long and happy lives, side-by-side with the love of their life and never put a ring on it. I am not saying it is right or wrong, but it is done.

So why are you getting married?

I urge you to sit down with your fiance and discuss why you two are getting married. There are tons of reasons out there that just aren't good enough. Because marriage is hard and love isn't enough.

Featured Wedding // Mike + Amanda's Robinson Ranch Wedding

One of my husband's best friends from high school tied the knot this year and I got the best of both worlds! Not only did The Overwhelmed Bride have the opportunity to coordinate their beautiful wedding day due to the amazing work of one of our lead coordinators, Ashley, but I got to enjoy the evening as a guest too! Every detail was beautifully thought out from start to finish and it ended with such a fun evening of love, laughs, and dancing the night away!

And don't forget to check out the vendor list below if you're in the Southern California area. HINT: They're some of my favorite vendors to work with and as you can see, did an amazing job ;)

Congratulations Mike and Amanda Ricker!

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34 Things we wish all brides knew but didn't have the guts to tell you until today [written by wedding professionals]

We want you to love us. We want you to adore us. And we want you to feel as though you are our best friend through the planning process.

And as it turns out, there is a lot we haven't been telling you but we think you really need to know.

I asked wedding professionals from around the world, "What do you want all of your brides to know, but just don't have the guts to tell them?" It's not because we are mean or because we are harsh, but because we want to make you happy. And some of this stuff, just is plain hard to spit out in front of your face!

This was BY FAR my favorite blog post I've published in the history of The Overwhelmed Bride. There are some key items in here that you may have heard before or some may create a realization today! Take it with a grain of salt and remember, we just want everything to be perfect.

So with that being said, get to studying!

 

1. Just because you saw it done at a California wedding, doesn't mean it's possible in Michigan.

"Every market is different. Products that are available in one part of the country, and found all over Pinterest, may not be available in your area. This can apply to flowers (i.e. delicate flowers don't hold up in South Florida heat or might only be seasonal), rental products, and even certain styles of venues. If there is a specific product or look you are going for, it may have to be brought in from a specialty supplier and can impact the logistic and pricing on the day. - Parish Designs

 

2. Your favorite vendor could literally disappear out of your life.

Always do your research. But once you find the vendor you are looking for, do not hesitate to book them! Quality vendors are highly sought after and in high demand. You do not want to miss your opportunity to book the perfect vendor while "thinking about it."” – Kurtis Cross

 

3. Only asking for pricing is the worst thing you can do.

Of course pricing is necessary to make sure you stick within your budget, but “beware of vendors with a low ball pricing strategy. It's a red flag that their service may lack heart and soul. The right vendors are worth a fair price, because we deliver an amazing product with superior service. If a vendor's pricing seems a tad high at first glance, it's because they're real people supporting real families. And they're running a real business - not a hobby." - Sizzle Cone Designs

And make sure you are comparing apples to apples. So many brides say to me, "Well I am going with them because their month-of package is cheaper." Well what exactly does their month-of package include? "It is okay to share your budget with your vendors. Every bride has an idea of what they have to work with, and a good vendor will work to get the highest quality for your budget." - To Hold & To Have

 

4. Your vendors get to eat before your guests...and before you!

That is the only time they have a chance to eat before the festivities begin…toasts, dancing, cake cutting, etc. "If we are served after the guests, it's too late for us to eat because we have to jump into parent dances and so on.” - Hey Mister DJ

We are human too and need nourishment in order to deliver what you are expecting from us!

 

5. Your guests will show up on time.

Don’t tell your guests to be there an hour before the ceremony is “supposed” to start, just in case. I understand half an hour or fifteen minutes, but “Many guests don't eat prior to the wedding so hungry guests are not happy guests.” - I DO Weddings by Sheri

And it isn’t fun for a guest who did show up on time, to be sitting in the hot sun (or freezing cold) for over an hour.

 

6. No matter how much you love a photo, it will never be re-created by your photographer.

“I would love brides to not send me images of other photographers’ weddings and ask to recreate them, especially if is not even the style we do.” – Robert Bruce Photography

You hired your photographer because they are creative and are great at what they do! By giving them a list of photos to take, you cannot capture your day truthfully. And unless you are at the same venue and are identical twins with the couple in the photo, it's never going to turn out the same. And even then, it probably will look different because your photographer is capturing love, happiness, and fun...and those can only truly be captured truthfully.

 

7. Even 10 minutes can throw off your entire day.

Just because your coordinator padded your timeline with an extra hour for hair and makeup, doesn’t mean you can be laid back about time. “Sticking to the hair and make up start times is crucial.”– Kandice ShaRhea Hair & Makeup Company

"The photographers arrive as you're finishing up hair and makeup to get those last images of you getting ready, photos of getting your dress on, shoes on, and jewelry on. And they tend to take a little loner than what we anticipate." - Makeup by Sahar So if you don't want to miss out on those precious details, show up on time and make sure your bridesmaids do the same!

 

8. You can’t take a cake home without a box.

“Ask your Baker to supply you with a cake box for the top layer of your cake that will travel well for you! “ – The Wentworth If not, your cake is ending up in the trash!

 

9. A hanger can make or break your photos.

"Bring a nice hanger for your dress, because the plastic or wooden room hangers do not flatter the dress at all in pictures or video." - Less Than 3 Productions

 

10. A smaller guest count actually costs more?

“When on a budget, do not assume having a smaller guest list will cut your catering costs. A majority of caterers charge an additional fee for staff for smaller parties,” - Jimmy Duffy's Catering or they charge a higher price per person as your guest count goes down.

 

11. You don't know more than we do. Just trust us.

Your wedding vendors have probably done thousands of weddings combined. And we know what works and what doesn't.

"Let us do the job you have hired us to do.  Especially with a unique venue, there are things that work and things that do not work.  We know this from years of experience and learning the hard way.  If we turn down an idea or something you have always wanted to do, it isn't because we are just being mean.  It is because we want your day to be perfect and the best it can be!  We have seen things go wrong and we know how to avoid it.  We are the experts at planning an event within our venue."  - Carolina Girl Events

 

12. Your inquiry email could be hurting you.

We need your wedding date (to make sure we are available) and more information about your wedding day to provide the best information possible. If we have a travel fee, we can’t add that into your quote without knowing where your wedding is! “Emails that read "pricing and packages please" will typically NOT get a great response from us.”- Jeff Lundstrom Photography

A bride who emails me and is excited about their wedding, will make us excited about your wedding day too!

 

13. Your hair and makeup will never look like that photo.

Because you are beautiful in your own unique way and you are not her! “Your hair texture and length will be something to consider when bringing a photo of a celebrity who most likely has extensions and hair pieces.” - Verve Hair & Makeup Artistry

 

14. You can't do a hair and makeup trial without a dress.

“Trial runs should be booked after you have your wedding dress, venue and all other style details locked in. Have pictures of hair and makeup you desire on hand at your appointment. That way there is a complete understanding of the mood you want on your special day! “ – Devon Duff Makeup

 

15. Photographers are wrong about the first look.

Every photographer will tell you the first look is best. But do what you want to do, not what they want. Yes, a first look allows you to enjoy your cocktail hour, to have a "better" timeline, to get those true emotions captured and to spend some alone time together in the midst of a busy day but if you love tradition, stick the to tradition. Believe me, we can make it work either way :) - Me

16. BUT...you don't get to have everything you want.

"You want photos but you want to be in cocktail hour but you also don’t want a first look. It doesn’t work. Good photos most likely can't be done in 15 minutes." - Vito Rade Photography

 

17. A wedding coordinator can get you better prices.

"Hire a day-of wedding coordinator! The discounts they can get you and referrals to good vendors will save you the cost of the coordinator, maybe more — plus having peace of mind on your big day is so worth it." - Bilmar Beach Resort

 

18. A comfortable pair of heels doesn't exist.

"If you are wearing bridal heels, plan on bringing a change of shoes (it's a l-o-n-g day!) and let the dress shop know.  Once you take off your 4 inch heels and put on flip-flops, your dress will be 4 inches too long unless you plan for it." - Peabody Essex Museum

 

19. Size 0 equals size 6?

*NO ONE is a "size __"  -- every designer uses their own size chart, and they vary greatly. Size is dependent upon current body measurements, designers specifications, and is greatly affected by fabric and cut of a gown. And NO ONE cares that you "plan" on losing weight or are "bloated" when  we measure you. Order the size we measure you for! - VIP Occasions, Inc.
 

 

20. You can wash your hair the day before the wedding.

"It's okay to wash your hair. :) I have so many brides who think they can't wash their hair or even show up on their wedding day with greasy hair because they thought they couldn't wash it." - Mindy City Hair

 

21. No wedding has ever or will ever go according to the timeline.

"I have encountered very few weddings that have gone according to the pre-made time line. Weddings have a time line of their own, and will unfold just as they are meant to! My couples who enjoy their day the most, are the ones that don't get too caught up in everything having to BE JUST SO. They are full of love and gratitude, that they have found the person they are meant to be with. As you embark on a lifelong journey together, does it really matter if the ceremony starts 5 minutes late?" - Modern Love Photography

 

22. Toasts aren't fun to watch.

"If you have several people that want to give a toast at your wedding, invite them to do it at the rehearsal dinner and keep the toasts at the reception limited to the best man/maid of honor and maybe a parent. And as always-- keep toasts short and sweet!" - Wabeek Country Club

 

23. There is a difference between a wedding planner and a venue coordinator.

"Most caterers, venue employees, DJ's etc are not wedding planners. They have their roles to make your day special." - The Urban Event

"While there are many venue managers who will go above and beyond their job description in the name of customer service, there are actually many pieces of the day as a whole they are not responsible for.  If you aren’t sure, ask.  If you are thinking of hiring a day-of coordinator, ask your venue manager for recommendations.  Things work like clock-work when the venue manager and the planner enjoy working together!" - SHOWORKS, Inc.

 

24. You're wasting your money if your photographer stays until the end.

And the only exception to that rule is if you are having a grand exit with sparklers or glow sticks or anything of that kind. "Paying extra for photographers to be at a reception until midnight is pointless. We only need about 30 minutes of dancing to get a few hundred shots.  Who needs a thousand photos of people dancing that have had too much to drink anyways? -   Frame 805 Photo

 

25. No, we cannot meet with you on a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday.

"I wish brides understood that on someone else’s wedding day, we are giving that bride our full attention so if we do not return their call or email on a Saturday, it’s because we are in full event mode.

A lot of vendors are off on Sundays and Mondays or other midweek days because our business is typically the busiest on weekends. . When a bride says it’s the only day she can meet, she needs to understand that sometimes is simply hard for vendors to not take regular days off to re-charge."  - Tahoe Beach Retreat

"We understand you work full time and do not want to take off work.  But it is nearly impossible to conduct a client appointment on a weekend." - Kentlands Mansion

 

26. We don't own magic wands.

"The amount of decor you can have at the event is contingent on the amount of installation time the venue will allow for the vendors. For example, is the space open to the public and only opens to vendors after closing? Has the hotel sold the room for a prior event that day? This all impacts what we can feasibly produce in a short window. - Parish Designs

And we can't read minds either. If you don't tell us, we won't know.

 

27. Ignore your fairytale.

"This is going to sound harsh but the one thing I wish all my brides knew but I would NEVER tell them is to ignore that fairy tale picture they see in their heads of themselves as a bride when purchasing a wedding gown.  Too many times I see a bride in the wrong style dress that does nothing for their figure because they had their heart set on a certain style.

Stop looking at the size 0, 6-foot tall models in bridal fashion magazines! They are not you and thinking that you will look EXACTLY like them is unrealistic (unless of course you are a size zero, 6 foot tall woman). Try on every style of dress there is to find the one that fits YOUR body and then you can hone in on the dress that makes you look like a million bucks! - Kay Photo & Design

 

28. Navy blue doesn't match navy blue.

"Don't be afraid to think outside the box for you wedding flowers. You don't have to match the blue flower to your blue dress." - Loess Hills Floral

Just because your dress is navy blue, doesn't mean it will match exactly with a navy blue flower because different textures create a different look. And that is okay! Personally, I love color palettes far more than a matchy-matchy color-scheme.

 

29. Those dance floor lights will ruin your photographs.

Choose lighting based on colors that "work" for your photographer and are going to photograph well! "A dark reception is great for setting the mood for a dance party, but if you keep it brighter, the pictures and video will be much better. - Bob's Eye View Weddings

"And some of the new laser lights are extremely unflattering (think hundreds of green dots) and can not be compensated for with flash. - Umbrella Studios

 

30. The secret to getting your guests to dance...

The bride and groom dancing means a full dance floor. If you're out there, they all will be out there." - Skysight Photography

 

31. Time is Money

Well, not literally money. But a happy bride means a successful wedding. "Being able to give yourself an extra 15 minutes between parts of the day will really help keep you calm and less stressed through out the day." - Inspire Me Imagery

And that's what a wedding coordinator is for ;)

 

32. What even is a bustle?

"Make sure you designate one bridesmaid to help with bustling your dress. And more importantly, make sure they have done a practice run a couple of times to be familiar with your specific bustle system." - Steven Lam Photography

Believe it or not, they come in all shapes and sizes! So knowing how to bustle ahead of time, will save you a lot of time!

 

33. The bride comes last.

"The bride's makeup should be done next to last. Not exactly last so the artist isn't rushing but also not first so that her makeup feels fresh."  - City Lights Makeup  If she is done first, then her hair and makeup needs to last perfectly that much longer!

 

34. Your guests don't like your music.

"I wish brides understood that when they make up a four hour playlist of all their favorite tunes, so many times tunes that they choose simply clear the dance floor, and the DJ gets the blame.  A pro DJ's job is play the right music at the right moment.  That can't happen when someone else who has never had to fill a dance floor before picks all the music." - Da Spin Doctor