My grandparents, Arthur and Donna Jollymour, are such a wonderful example of what a marriage should look like. They are role models for my own marriage and so, I wanted to share their beautiful story, and their marriage advice for all of you!
Can you tell me the beautiful story of how you met?
"Yes," was my reply. He said his car was the yellow convertible.
At school we had a registers file where were could look up names, and the next week being interested, I looked him up and found out he was older than he had told me, actually a senior...I was a sophomore. Several of my sorority sisters were pinned, or engaged, to guys in his fraternity and our spring formal was coming up. So, I asked one of my sorority sisters to ask her boyfriend to invite him to be my date. (I happened to be in the Cal hospital, so I couldn't call him myself). The night of the formal at the Claremont Country Club, May 23rd, we hardly danced. We sat outside on the deck, talking and talking, as if we were old friends who knew each other, but hadn't seen each other for a long time and needed to "catch up". That night we both discovered we were interested in Hawaii.
In October he gave me my engagement ring. We were on our way to a fraternity party, driving along and he said, "Do you want your engagement ring now?" My reply was, "Yes, please pull over and stop".
Arthur: Actually, the exchange was at Joaquin Miller Park in the Oakland hills. When "my fraternity brother", Rich, asked me if I wanted to go to the SK formal with "a Donna something or other", I was in the shower and he hollered it over the the stall wall and four voices answered "sure". On that dinner I invited her to, the night before someone had broken into our fraternity house and stolen my wallet with all my money so she paid for dinner.
What has been your biggest marital struggle?
Donna: I feel the same way, if there were any. We learned a long time ago not to hang on for very long to disagreements. Easier for him, but I'm still learning. Just get over it - life's too short. I think women are more emotional than men and we tend to hold a grudge until we learn that it doesn't do any good. In the long run, what difference does it make?
What advice do you have for couples who will soon say their "I Do's"?
I believe a sharing of "faith" in whatever religion one embraces and a strong family bond are the keys to a long marriage.
There have been so many life changes in the past 60 years. We both took our marriage vows very seriously. Marriage isn't a disposable item, if one thinks that way, don't get married.
I love you Baba and Papa!