Written with love, by Felicia Zammit-McMann
With Thanksgiving (my favorite holiday) just around the corner, I wanted to focus this month's article on the power of being thankful. We’ve all heard of gratitude journals, and the reason they work is because they make you focus on the little things (or big things) that bring joy to your life every day - the things that may otherwise go unnoticed or forgotten.
It’s easy to get distracted with your wedding planning and in your married life. It happens to the best of us. But when you stop and take a moment and think about what you are truly thankful for, it helps to bring perspective into, what otherwise could be, a very chaotic time in your life.
Let’s start with your engagement ring. Yes, it’s beautiful and of course you’re thankful your man proposed. But let’s dig a little deeper. I often find myself looking at my ring and thinking about the story behind it. All the time and effort that went into looking for the ring, dropping thousands on what could otherwise easily be a down payment on a car, and the planning that went into our proposal. I’m thankful for every moment that led to me meeting my husband, for every moment that led to me getting that ring and thankful that my husband loves me enough to make me his wife. Do you ever find yourself thinking the same thing?
Think about everything that came into your possession since your engagement. Your dress, your shower gifts, the parties and showers, the well wishes. Yes, receiving all that is somewhat of a given, but no one HAS TO do any of it.
What about these folks...
Your Bridal Party
For many of us, it’s assumed that if you ask someone to be by your side on your big day, they will say yes. However, do you ever think about how thankful you are to them for the financial investment they are making for you? Between their dresses, hair, makeup, nails, flight, hotel stay, plus wedding gift. That’s a big commitment!
Again, just because you send an invite, doesn’t mean they HAVE TO come.
Many guests travel near and far to be with you. Having a room full of people that saved that date just for you is part of what made our wedding so special. Seeing everyone we care about in one room, together, for us, was truly unbelievable. Then, when we opened our gifts and realized how generous people were to us, it just sent us over the top. They didn’t have to do that.
Your Wedding Vendors
Think about their jobs. Most weddings take place on a weekend, so that means that the workers, whether it be your photographer, your limo driver, your servers, hotel staff, your florist, cake baker, etc., have to give up their weekend to be with you. Could you do that? Even if you were paid? I know I wouldn’t be willing to give up my weekends so easily.
The one you love the most can often be the person you take for granted the most. When was the last time you thanked your spouse (or future spouse) for taking out the trash, or doing the dishes, or shoveling your car out from the snow? (Yes, for those of us on the east coast, that time is coming again soon!)
Be thankful each and every day.