Happy Wife, Happy Life

There is just something about this statement that makes me cringe. And I can't exactly pinpoint what it is. But it is just so strange to think that this is a statement that is at the core of our society. I mean, is there anyone out there who hasn't heard it before?

My husband and I have a lot of friends who use this phrase as the one and only rule for their marriage. If she says they cannot stay out late, they head home early. If she says they are ready to have kids, they get pregnant. If she says they are going to the Bahamas, they go (while that one doesn't sound too bad does it?).

This is quite a common trend and is something that so many couples truly believe "works well" for their marriage. Well let me tell you, it doesn't work. For anyone. And if it seems to be "working" now, then you really aren't living a fulfilled, beautiful, and happy marriage.

At some point, after 5, 10, or even 60 plus years of marriage, the husband is going to blow. You can only take that "I own you" mentally for so long before the truth will come out. It just doesn't work.

Marriage is about compromise. If you haven't learned it already, you better learn fast. And in a perfect marriage in my eyes, my husband and I will begin to argue over who gets to compromise their beliefs, just for the sole reason of making the other happy. We will fight, argue, and bicker in order to put a smile on the others' face. That is my perfect world.

Happy wife, happy life just isn't the truth. Happy spouse, happy life is what it's all about.