I have a friend who is amazing at hair and makeup! I am going to have her be my wedding day stylist to save some money!"
At some point, I know this has crossed your mind. Your probably left your hair and makeup to the end of the planning and at this point, you've already gone over your budget. So now you are just doing anything and everything you can to save! While it may sound like a great idea to hire your friend at the time, and I am sure she is amazing at doing hair and makeup, before you make that decision, I urge you to read through this article and then decide if that is your best option!
Because my guess is that you are absolutely going to change your mind as soon as you hear the horrors of hiring a non-professional for your wedding day! And I've asked for some help from Dee, Owner of Swell Beauty, to show you why this is a HUGE MUST!
But before we give you our take, our beautiful bride Kelsey gives her own insight on hiring a professional and why she chose Swell Beauty for her wedding day!
Because this friend of yours is not being paid, they are more likely to cancel on you at any given time because there is nothing keeping them from staying! And even if you are paying him or her, that comfort aspect allows a friend an "out," where a professional would never even think of cancelling on a bride! Okay, so she is your best friend and you just know she would never cancel...well that's what you think now! But just wait until a couple weeks before the wedding...
"About 95% of the time, we are called last minute without having time for a trial because a friend has cancelled or has become too stressed and felt too much pressure to go through with the bridal hair and makeup." - Dee, Owner of Swell Beauty
While you may feel a complete sense of comfort because you have been friends since you were four years old, this is actually more of a reason that she would cancel on you! This is one of the biggest days of your life, thus far, and is a TON of pressure to perform well! What if you don't like it? What if your up do falls out before the night is over? What if the photos don't turn out well and it is all her fault??
These are all of the questions that are swirling through your friend's head...and for good reason!
The Celebration of YOU
Your best friend is able to control her nerves and pull through for your wedding day. She does your hair and makeup beautifully, on top of being an amazing bridesmaid!
But how did you imagine your wedding morning with your bridesmaids? Personally, I think that is a time for a group of friends to relax, get pampered, and enjoy some music and laughs together before the craziness begins!
But for her, there is no time for relaxation and fun! "The friend feels that she cannot enjoy the wedding since she is technically working. She feels pressured to have her bride look amazing all day!" - Dee, Swell Beauty
So not only through the "getting ready stage" but through the entire wedding day, she will not be able to sit back, relax, and enjoy this special day for her best friend, but instead will be constantly looking at her work, critiquing it, and making sure each hair and eyelash stays in place!
Now that doesn't sound like much fun to me! So keep the stress to the professionals, and let your friends relax and enjoy themselves :)
Your Cut & Color Stylist
100% of the time there will be changes made and things that come up that weren't exactly as planned for your wedding day. And that is where the professionals come in. But first, let me define "professional: in regards to this series:
Professional: A hair stylist and makeup artist who specializes in wedding day hair and makeup. This is not the girl who cuts and colors your hair, and that is a very important distinction that needs to be made! Although they are professionals, they are not the type of professionals we are talking about in this series!
"Professionals have more experience in dealing with stress, pressure, timing, and unexpected changes throughout the wedding day" (Dee, Swell Beauty) whereas your cut and color stylist doesn't! He or she isn't working under pressure each and every day - if she runs 10 minutes behind schedule for your haircut, she can just hand you tea and a magazine and you are good to go! But on your wedding day, this is not going to fly.
Your every day cut and color stylist may be amazing, but she is not used to working under pressure and on top of that, she doesn't do wedding up-dos and makeup each and every day. You want the professional who specializes in exactly what you need!
The Moral Obligation
I know you may feel the pressure to hire your everyday stylist or your friend, but I am telling you that you have no obligation to hire him or her, so don't let that get to you! If you are feeling the pressure, here is what you say:
"You are fantastic at what you do and I love your work, but I really want you to be able to just enjoy the wedding day and not have to worry about my hair and makeup!"
Plain and simple. And then no feelings are hurt!
A Friendship Lost
You're sitting there on your wedding day, about to walk down the aisle to say "I Do" and you look in the mirror at your final look, and you hate it. You don't feel pretty and you just want to cry!
Wouldn't that just be the worst??
Despite the fact that you may have done a trial beforehand, your friend is not in the business of duplicating her work each and every time. You can't tell her you hate it because you don't want to hurt her feelings and worst of all, you don't feel gorgeous on your wedding day! Will this friendship remain strong?
"Most of the time brides have told me that they regret using a friend for their services because they felt bad telling them that they were not happy with their work. And almost every time, the hair and makeup don't last. Guilt is a big factor and most brides have told me that those friendships have changed and have becomes very awkward." - Dee, Swell Beauty
These are all real-life scenarios that happen to brides all of the time, just because she felt bad saying no in the first place, or because she was trying to save a couple bucks. Is a couple bucks really worth it to you? Is it worth a ruined friendship and a negative bump in your wedding day?
It needs to last all day!
On my wedding day, we started getting ready at 8:00am and our ceremony didn't start until 5:30pm. Yes, we had a lot of bridesmaids to get ready, but even if you don't you need your hair and makeup to last for a very long time.
And you can trust that a professional's work, a wedding professional's work, will last well through the night! Not only do they have the tools and experience to know how to make this happen, but they use professional products, and not products that you can find at a convenient store.
The products are meant to last and are used because they work! "A professional who does weddings constantly has the experience to know how certain hair types are going to last and what products work best for longevity." (Dee, Swell Beauty)
You want to be pampered on your wedding day and you want to find a professional you can trust to pamper you, make you feel beautiful, and make it last! So choose a WEDDING professional, and you are sure to prevent those horrors from happening!
I hope that this series is not only fun for you to watch, see, and read, but that is eases any worries or unknowns about what your hair and makeup trial will be like. Our goal is to guide you through the process of choosing your stylists, offer you tips and tricks along the way, make sure you are best prepared for your trial, and help you through all the way to your wedding day!