The Wedding Dress // Part 3

Written with love, by Felicia

Your wedding day has come and gone, you’ve returned from your honeymoon, and “real life” is starting to set back in. For as much euphoria as I felt the day I purchased my dress and the day I got married, I felt just as much sadness seeing my dress hanging on the back of my door, never to be worn again. It was like going through the stages of grief. For me, letting go of my dress was the hardest post-wedding wrap-up I had to do. In fact, it took me a year to do it. 

The wedding dress was more than fabric and lace to me. That DRESS changed my life. I became a wife in that dress. My entire world changed in that dress! I would find myself sometimes unzipping the bag and looking at the beading. Touching my dress made the memory of our wedding day very real and tangible. During our engagement, my dress became a source of inspiration for me as knowing I would get to wear it not only motivated me to lose weight and get in shape, but it also got me through a difficult health crisis. It was like an old friend I couldn’t say “goodbye” to. Until one day…

…I unzipped the bag and started to see little yellow stains appear. “Oh, shoot!” I thought. I waited too long. I had to get my dress preserved NOW. Some brides decide to never preserve their dress, but I strongly recommend you do.

Your dress is a major investment! For some, it costs several thousand dollars. If you purchased a TV or car (yes, some dresses cost as much as a car), you’d want to protect it, right? The same goes for your dress. Remember, fabric doesn’t last forever. Miniscule drops of alcohol, sweat, and food particles that landed on your dress while you were partying away are slowly eating away and breaking down the fabric. Oxidation happens almost immediately, and the sooner you can prevent it, the better. You don’t want holes or stains ruining your dress forever.

Theresa Bridget Photography // Dress: Love & Lace Bridal Salon

Theresa Bridget Photography // Dress: Love & Lace Bridal Salon

So get that preservation started before it's too late!

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1)      Before you begin, do your research. Call a few bridal salons, starting with the store where you purchased the dress. Sometimes, they may offer you a discount on preserving your dress if you purchased it there. Get prices, preserving techniques and tips from each place you call to help you decide on where to take your dress. Dry cleaners will also do it, often times cheaper, but that comes down to your own comfort level.

2)      Decide what kind of preserving you want. There are traditional ways, which involve a chemical process, and there are newer techniques, greener methods that produce the same results. I went the green route because the thought of chemicals touching my dress made me ill. Plus, often times with a chemical process, they need to do a reverse chemical process if someone wants to wear it again in the future.

3)      Make sure whoever you have preserve your dress has insurance and insures your dress. Many dress shops use preserving companies that have been doing this forever; but you want to make sure, that just in case something happens, you have insurance to cover the cost.

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4)      Expect to pay between $300 and $400, and also expect to wait upwards of three to four months for your dress to come back. It’ll be in a box, with a see-through window, then placed in cardboard box, and then another. It’ll be packed tight, for a reason. More layers equals more protection.

5)      Keep your dress in living space that is climate-controlled. Do not place your preserved dress in a basement or attic. Moderate and comfortable temperatures are best. Underneath a bed or in a closet are good places to store your dress.

6)      If you want to preserve your dress, but don’t think you can afford it, put it on your registry.

 

So, tell us, did you preserve your gown or are you planning on doing so?

Wedding Dress Preservation

Featured Wedding // Sarah + Drew's Baseball Themed Wedding

Sarah and Drew were such a fun couple to work with! They tied the knot on May 1, 2015 with a beautiful church wedding and brought every detail of their likes, loves, and interests into their reception. From the baseball-themed centerpieces to the hilarious shoe game the newlyweds played in front of their guests, it was a night of dancing, laughs, and a whole lot of fun!

Congratulations Sarah and Drew!

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You're mad at the wrong person!

I'm going to start off with a question:

If your car breaks down, your work day just isn't going as planned, or you and your best friend are arguing over something silly, who is the first person you are going to call, text, or talk to?

Most likely (and hopefully) your answer is your soon-to-be (or current) spouse. Personally, my husband is the first person I text about ANYTHING, good or bad. We tell each other everything throughout the day, almost to the point where we don't have much to talk about when he calls me on his way home from work every day!

Now we all get angry, and some of us are better at handling that anger than others. So think about what you do to let your anger out - Do you scream into a pillow? Go the the gym? Cry? Punch a wall?

Want to know the way I get my anger out? I get frustrated with my husband for silly things, and take my anger out on him.

And I am sure I am not alone.

Last December, my clutch went out while I was driving on the freeway on my way to a blog photoshoot that had been planned for months. After pulling to the shoulder and bursting into tears, I immediately called my husband.

So frustrated with my situation (and 30 vendors counting on me to complete an amazing photoshoot), he had a whole list of ways to fix my problem. And the first two options were:

1. He could call a tow truck, and then rental car company so I could immediately get a new car to drive to the photoshoot.

2. He could leave work right then and there and pick me up and drive me to Orange County (which was going to be about a 3 hour drive at that hour).

Through my frustration, I somehow came up with a million reasons why none of his ideas were going to work. And amidst our conversation, I somehow turned it around and began to yell at him. Terrible, I know.

I turned what could have been an easy fix, into a fight. And it was not because he did anything wrong - in fact, he did everything right - but because I had no one else and nothing else to take my frustration out on, so he was an easy target.

I have run into similar situations hundreds of times, and for some reason, I always find a way to get mad at my husband for no reason. I am not sure if it is because I know he will always be there for me, no matter how mad I get and how much I yell at that time, or if I just don't have another way to get my anger out. But in any instance, it is wrong and I have been working hard to change it.

I am fairly positive that I am not alone, no matter the scale of venting and punch-throwing that may occur. But the moral of the story is that we always tend to take our anger out on the people we love the most. And instead, we need to find a way to flip this around, and begin to love the ones we love the most, even in the height of an argument that may have nothing to do with him or her, or in a total crisis. Your spouse is the one who will  be there with you through thick and thin, so let's make sure we treat him/her with that care they truly deserve.

Find a way to let your anger and frustration out, and find a way that doesn't include bringing your spouse down with you.