A Contract Is A Contract

You did it! The long venue search has finally come to an end and you signed on the dotted line.

But did you read what you signed? Most often, the answer is no.

You've all signed one and most likely, didn't even read a word. But today, I am going to tell you why it is absolutely imperative that you read every inch, small print and large, front and back, cover to cover.

A contract is what protects you. A contract is what makes a company liable. A contract is what ensures your wedding is exactly as planned.

While the wedding industry is filled with amazing vendors who are honest, reliable, and will truly put their heart and soul into making your wedding day perfect, there are still those that lie, cheat, and don't give you what you are promised. I am not trying to scare you because believe me, most wedding professionals are absolutely fabulous so the odds of running into a not-so-great person are slim, but I will tell you this, it does happen. And even with vendors who are amazing, companies get sold, people forget what they said two years earlier, and things change. But a contract always remains.

And I want to prevent anything bad from happening to you...you're overwhelmed as it is so a faulty contract is the LAST thing you need just weeks before your wedding.

So before you sign on the dotted line, make sure all of the following are included, correct, and written twice! Just kidding, once is plenty, but you know what I mean :)

Date

You may have chuckled at how simple this tip is, but you'd be surprised! You're beyond excited to book your vendor so meticulously checking even the biggest details of your wedding can be forgotten!

Wouldn't it just be the worst if a vendor accidentally double-booked a wedding, because you forgot to check the date??

Time

Yes, you should have the time on there too! Although you may not know it at the time of booking, I would give your very best estimate, on the earlier side, just in case! Two things can go wrong if you don't make sure this is on there:

1. Two weddings may be booked in one day and if you decide to push it earlier, it may overlap with another wedding!
2. Your photographer, for example, checks the contract for the start time, making sure not to bother you just weeks before the wedding, and shows up an hour late!

Price

It's so simple, yet so forgotten.

Wedding packages and pricing change all of the time. And from year to year, they tend to go up rather than down. So if you are promised your package at $1,000 but it goes up to $1,250 the following year, your vendor is going to have no idea what you were promised, unless the agreed upon price is written in the contract!

Not just the package name...

Many wedding professionals will include just the package in their contract to ensure it doesn't overwhelm you. But I would advise you to attach and sign what is included in that specific package in addition to the package name. What if you book your photographer two years in advance and he decides to change his packages the following year, changing the size of the album that is offered at that price? Well because it is not in the contract specifically, he may not remember, and you're out of luck!

The Specifics

Don't just include the item, but exactly what the item is. If you just have to have peonies in your bouquet, then make sure your florist writes that in! If you are dying for the large wedding album, then make sure the exact size, number of photos, and type of album is written in there. I know it sounds nit-picky, but if you have to have it, write it in there to be sure!

EVERYTHING you are promised!

No matter what it is that is meaningful to you and you just have to have on your wedding day, make sure it is written in the contract. And here is why...

A bride absolutely had to have her dog as her ring bearer and when booking a venue, this was the first question she asked. She and her fiance found a venue that was just perfect AND allowed dogs so she signed on the dotted line without hesitation. Booking her venue two years in advance, the company who owned the venue was taken over by a larger company within that two years. And that larger company that now owned her venue at the time of her wedding did not allow dogs anywhere on the premises.

And what could've avoided this problem? If the words "Dog is allowed at ceremony" were written in the contract, there wouldn't have been any problem. The contract would have carried over to the new company along with the prices and what was offered in the package, and that cute little puppy would've been there for her big day!

So not matter how nit picky you think you are being or how annoying you feel, make sure every tiny detail is written in each and every one of your contracts to ensure your day is absolutely perfect, the way it was planned from the beginning!

Shopping for Value

Christopher Todd Studios

Christopher Todd Studios

Budget, budget, budget.

We drill this word into your brain over and over from the second you get engaged, all the way through the wedding day. Planning a wedding revolves around that budget, and that is why we stress it's importance so much! There is nothing worse than owing an additional $7,000 or even $500 that you don't have to spend.

And with all of that, we have taught you to become so obsessed with budget, that oftentimes you forget about other aspects that are important. One of those being value.

First, I want to define the terms so you have a better understanding of where I am coming from.

Price vs. Value

Price: The number amount of currency that you are paying for a specific venue or vendor (example: $150)
Value: The items or services you are receiving in comparison to the price you are paying...the "bang for your buck" (example: $150 for a bouquet with peonies OR $150 for a bouquet of carnations)

As you can see, there is a clear difference between price and value, and because we put so much emphasis on price, couples always think in terms of price rather than value.

And here is where that can go wrong...

Florist X

You have a $2000 budget for all of your floral for your wedding, but it sure would be nice to get it all for less than that, wouldn't it?

You find Florist X online, request a quote, and voila! Everything you want is quoted for a total of $1,500. Now that sure is a deal! But just to make sure you are getting the best price possible, you contact another florist.

Florist Y

You get your second quote from Florist Y, and the quote is $2,100 for everything. Of course, since it is over budget, you are going to choose Florist X over Florist Y because the #1 rule you've learned is to not go over your designated budget! So with a price that fits, Florist X is it!

The Problem

It is your wedding day and Florist X shows up an hour late, your floral is nothing what you expected, your favorite peonies are nowhere to be found, and you are missing three boutonnieres and your toss bouquet.

At least you were able to cut your budget down, right??

Wrong.

I don't think there is any bride out there (or at least very few) who would agree that it was worth the $600 that was saved between the two quotes you received. Although you got a better price, you should've taken a better look at the value you were going to be receiving for that price. As it turns out, Florist Y would've been more expensive but would've been there on time so you could take photos with your bouquet, provided more floral than expected, and was an absolute pleasure to work with throughout the process!

Now that's value!

Although the extra $100 over budget may have seemed crazy at the time, there are always ways to cut in other areas to ensure the total budget stays as is. And even if not, $100 would've been well worth the hassle. So when searching for your vendors, although you need to take a look at the price to ensure your entire wedding budget stays put, it is time to put your emphasis on value, to ensure the process and the outcome are all and more than you wished for.

Your Dream Dress is UGLY

Tulle & Chantilly

Tulle & Chantilly

You know that dress you've been swooning over and have pinned at least twelve times on different wedding boards? Yep, that's the dress I'm talking about. And I'll tell you now, it's butt ugly.

Sure, it looks fantastic on that five foot ten, 105 pound model who probably looks like a different person with all of that makeup she is wearing in the shot, but on you? Sorry, it doesn't look so great.

Right about now, I am sure you have a big frown on your face and you're either getting extremely angry or defensive. "I thought Jenn was a nice girl! She must've been in a pretty bad mood when she wrote this post!" Well, I will tell you now, you're wrong. I'm in a great mood!

So before you click the "X" to get away from this mean article that is crushing your wedding dreams, I urge you to just read on. Trust me!

My Dream Gown

When I got engaged, I quickly decided on my dream dress...or at least my dream dress look. With just six short months to plan, I knew I had to find a dress immediately. So without hesitation, my closest friends and I took a day to go try on dresses and all I wanted was to find that dress I had been swooning over, or at least one that was similar.

It took a while to find one but when I did, my eyes completely lit up!

That is, when I saw it on the hanger.

But let me tell you, as I stepped into the beautiful gown, pulled it up and turned around to face the mirror so that I could admire my dream gown, something crazy happened.

I hated it.

I hated the dress so much that I did not even zip it up. I think I had THE dress on for a total of 7 seconds...maybe. It looked absolutely terrible on me and from that point on, I didn't bother to try on anything even close to that style.

The dress I couldn't stand...

Christopher Todd Studios

Christopher Todd Studios

Fast forward a couple of hours...

We are all at the second salon that day, and I just haven't found the one. My best friend's mom came along with us and urged me to try on a drop waist styled dress. "I just know this will looked gorgeous on you...and Frank will love how it flatters your body!"

Ughh, not my style. As all of my sisters and bridesmaids chimed in (that is why you don't bring 6 people along with you), they all urged me to try one on. "Fine," I said as the stylist grabbed one off of the rack. I went into the back room, slipped it on with a frown on my face, walked out to the mirrors, and stood on the platform as she zipped it up and put the clips on to make it snug. She dimmed the lights so that the beading could sparkle, and that was it.

I fell in love. That was the dress.

Moral of the Story

While I could go on and on about it, there is a moral of the story here.

Keep an open mind. Try on the dresses you hate because the worst thing that can happen is that you put it on and still hate it, and take it off, never to be looked at again. And on the contrary, get that dream dress out of your head! Yes, it is great to have some inspiration and some idea of what you are looking for when you go into it, but if you try "the one" on and it doesn't looked as it did on the model in the magazine, don't let it bring you down.

You will find the one, I promise!

It is hard to choose a dress based on a model reality that isn't true for most of us. Different dresses look better on different bodies so embrace that! Keep an open mind and you'll find "the one," just as you have found your "one" to marry!