Honoring Passed Loved Ones

It is hard to go through a wedding day without some of your most important family members present. And I just how hard it is from experience.

My mom passed away when I was 19 years old so when it came time to plan my wedding at 23, believe me it wasn't easy. And I am sure there are many of you who are experiencing this. Whether it is a grandparent, a sibling, an aunt or uncle or close friend, death is never easy. And all of the planning along the way is just more reminders that they are not there with us to "say yes to the dress" or to taste those delicious cake possibilities. No matter what it is, it is not easy.

So in many cases, couples like to honor those who have passed, but I have one piece of advice for you:

Don't go overboard. This is still a wedding, and is a happy occasion. And bringing up those memories may cause grief and some tears. And while that is all okay, just don't go too overboard, as you don't want to spoil the happy moments, but instead, represent those loved ones subtly.

Here are some of our favorite ways to honor your loved ones who have passed in simple, subtle, and stunning ways.

 

A Simple Frame

Having a simple framed saying set up somewhere on a welcome table, is the perfect way to honor those loved ones without being too over the top.
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A Candle

You could light a candle during your wedding ceremony, or even just have a candle lit in your reception room throughout the evening.
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Save A Seat

Save a seat for your loved one at your ceremony or at your reception. You could place a photo of them there, a burning candle, or even their favorite ball cap or piece of jewelry in their place. This is one of my absolute favorites!

 

Bouquet Charms

A simple charm hung from your bouquet - a photo, a piece of jewelry, or even a handkerchief of theirs used as the handle wrap. These are all beautiful ideas which add a beautiful addition to your detail shots too!
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A Photo Gallery

Not only are photos beautiful for guests to look at, but they can add some simple yet stunning decor to your ceremony or reception! It's as simple as that!

 

A Little Piece of Him

Whether it is a piece of your dad's old shirt, a handkerchief, or even a piece of your aunt's wedding gown, this little addition to a tie or your gown is absolutely stunning in my eyes!
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10 Ways to Incorporate "Something Blue" Into Your Wedding Day

We love tradition and we love something blue. No matter how you incorporate it into you wedding day, let it show off your personality! Here are some of our favorite ideas on how to add a little "something blue" into your wedding day!

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Your Flowers

Even if you don't have blue in your wedding palette, throw a single flower into your bouquet, or into each centerpiece to represent that something blue!

 

Your Wedding Cake

 

Bouquet Charm

 

Bridal Heels

 

Hairstyle Accessories

 

Shoe Decals

 

Bridal Pin

 

Lingerie

 

Garters

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Wedding Dress Patch

#IWedForMarriage

Believe it or not, a wedding isn't about the spectacle. It isn't about how much money you spent to create a beautiful evening, about hiring one of the best photographers in the nation in hopes of at least one of your photos going viral, and it isn't about getting published in a top magazine or on a top wedding blog. Despite popular belief, a wedding isn't about any of that. 

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The Amburgeys

Yes, I am a wedding blogger and wedding planner. I love weddings and I believe in weddings. I believe they are a wonderful time for your family and friends to come together for a fun evening of dinner, dancing and celebrating, because this may be one of the few times you can get everyone together all in one place. And this is a wonderful, beautiful day in your lives that should be shared and celebrated.  We are not celebrating a wedding, we are celebrating...

a Marriage.

The purpose of a wedding is to get married. There is no other purpose. If you weren't getting married, would you throw a big party? Maybe? But there would most likely be some occasion...a birthday, a new house, a baby...but in this case, the one and only purpose of your wedding is your marriage.

So in order to keep your wedding marriage-focused, I've come up with some of the top things to consider while planning for your big day:

 

1. Don't Pay on Credit

One of the top reasons for divorce is finances, so do yourself a favor and spend only what you can afford then and there, rather than starting your marriage off in debt.

2. Make decisions for the both of you.

Don't argue, bicker, or fight about the small stuff. Because that's all it is - small stuff. Focus on the large issues like what kind of ceremony you will have, what readings you want to be read, and the items that truly have meaning in your marriage. Favors, colors, and decor are NOT going to make a difference in your marriage 5 years from now. I promise.

3. Don't try to impress.

The more you focus your wedding on others and who you are going to impress - the internet, your friends, your family - the less your wedding will be focused on YOU. And your wedding is about the two of you and your marriage, not anyone else.

Keep your wedding marriage-focused, rather than wedding focused, and you will be off to a great start! If you believe in all of this and want to keep your wedding marriage-focused, post a photo of you and your future spouse and #IWedForMarriage.