Gym Hunting // What To Consider Before Signing

Written with love, by Nikki Lian

Whether you're an early bird who's workout dictates how the day is going to go or someone who needs to relieve stress after work, finding a gym that suits you is of utmost importance. It sounds like a no-brainier right?  Just go to the gym closest to home or one that is the least expensive.  It's really not all that easy. If you are serious about getting into shape you're going to be there quite often, so it's imperative that you choose one that fits your needs. Here are some things you should look into before signing a contract:

 

Gym Times

You may have crazy hours at work and can only work out at 2am. Or, you like to get your workout in before 7am, even on the weekends. Consider the hours of operation before you decide to sign up. I once didn't join a gym because their opening weekend hours weren't early enough for me. It's something you must consider. Another thing to consider about time is the time you must go. Ask for a week pass and test the waters. If you are going straight from work and you'll be starting your workout at 6pm, is it going to be so packed that you can't even get your cardio on?

 

Location, Location, Location

Unless it's some sort of a one of a kind specialty gym that you have to go to, ask yourself how much time you are willing to spend in traffic. Do you want 30 minutes of time that could be spend doing an outstanding leg workout to go to sitting in traffic?  That's of course your decision, but it is definitely something else to consider. You may have to travel a lot as well and find yourself in different places you aren't used to, so you might want to consider a gym that has multiple locations so you don't have to miss any workouts.

 

Classes + Amenities Offered

Do you love a good cardio kickboxing class, or an evening dip in the pool?  Make sure this gym has what you want!  You're paying good money here, so make sure you're getting what you pay for. Gyms usually have a schedule of classes online to look at, but again if this is something important to you ask to have a few days free to check out the class instructors or cleanliness off the sauna.  Speaking of cleanliness...

 

Cleanliness

Hundreds of people spread their germs throughout any given fitness facility every day. It's the business's job to keep it up to health club standards. Yes, people are pigs and they could not care less for leaving their sweat all over the bicep curl machine. But it's a good sign when you see gym employees re-racking weights, wiping down machines, and picking up trash (especially in the restroom).  You want a workout, not a communicable, foreign fungus growing on your extremities.

So your gym is clean, it's got the classes you want at the hours you want and it's right down the street.  You are ready to become an official member!  My advice? Read between the lines. Obviously you're not going to need a lawyer to go over these documents but some things are important to know so you are not surprised later on. For example, is there a down payment? Is there a month to month membership or am I locked in for a year?  If I'm locked in, what is the cancellation fee?  If I'm not locked in, what is the cancellation process?  If I get injuredhave to go on an extended vacation can I freeze my membership?  What if I move out of state?  Make sure all your answers are in writing. Salespeople can tend to verbalized things in a way you want to hear so be careful.

Joining a gym is like buying a car, take a few for a test drive to see what makes you happy.   Be thorough in the questions you ask and take your time. Happy hunting!!

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What do you do when your marriage goes south? // Fixing a Broken Marriage

Written with love, by Pastor Dave Page

Marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies. Have you found that to be true? I believe that the hardest thing you’ll ever do in life is to be part of a healthy and growing marriage relationship. It just takes a lot of hard work. Marriages go through stages. So what do you do when your marriage goes south? I’ve been there and done that. Below are 5 things we did that helped save our marriage:

 

1.  HANG IN THERE

Don’t give up. Try not to walk away. Let any explosive anger begin to dissipate. Try to calm down. Get rid of any drama. Don't separate if at all possible. If you do end up separating, set a future date in which you plan to get back together. Don’t date other people during your cooling down period. When other people get involved it complicates the situation and divides emotions.

 

2.  GET COUNSELING RIGHT AWAY

The best possible scenario would be for both of you to go to counseling together. If your spouse refuses to go with you then go alone. In our marriage crisis my wife refused to go to counseling. She felt she didn't need it but she encouraged me to go nonetheless. After a few sessions she saw that I was serious and she volunteered to come with me. There are good counselors and bad counselors – get a good counselor. Do the homework that she gives you to do. Most likely it will involve communication and conflict resolution exercises. These were invaluable and I believe they helped save our marriage.

 

3.  ASK TO BE FORGIVEN AND FORGIVE

I said and did some hurtful things to my wife. She was deeply wounded. Our counselor suggested I write her a letter detailing the ways I hurt her and then ask for her forgiveness. I spent hours writing the letter. I took responsibility for the things I did wrong in our marriage. I took my wife out to dinner and read the letter to her. She was so gracious and forgiving. We both had tears in our eyes. After I shared my stuff, she admitted that she had done some things she regretted as well. It takes two to tango. It was easy to forgive her after she so freely forgave me.

 

4.  BE WILLING TO CHANGE

I closed off the letter with lyrics from a Lifehouse song called, “Whatever it Takes.” Below is the chorus to the song:

I'll do whatever it takes
To turn this around
I know what's at stake
I know that I've let you down
And if you give me a chance
Believe that I can change
I'll keep us together
Whatever it takes

I was willing to do whatever it took to turn our marriage around.

 

5.  SEEK SUPERNATURAL GUIDANCE

My wife and I are both persons of faith. We believe in God and seek to do His will. Neither one of us wanted a divorce but we were worn out, frustrated and at our wits end. I like what Ruth Graham said when asked if she had ever considered divorcing Billy Graham. Her answer, was, “Divorce? No. Murder? Yes.” I think that’s how we both felt at the time.

I want you to know that there is HOPE. God specializes in resurrections. He can resurrect a dead marriage. Sometimes we need to get outside of ourselves and surrender our will to Him. Faith can go a long way. Jesus said, “With God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26).

I know firsthand how excruciating the pain can be when you’re in a difficult marriage. I would be glad to pray for you personally if you email me privately. I will keep whatever you share with me confidential. I’ve never offered to do this on a blog before and may not offer to do it again in the future but would be glad to join with you in praying for you, your spouse and your marriage.

Blessings,
Dave