Selfish or Selfless?

Being a bride means trying to please everyone. And no matter what your visions are of your wedding day, I guarantee there is someone else close to you whose vision is in some way or another, far from what you want your wedding to look like.

Whether it be the dress, the venue, the colors, or even the invitations, every bride is going to run into the tough decision of whether to please others or to please herself.

I'd like to call myself a very selfless person, and I always encourage my brides to be selfless as they plan for their weddings:

---> Booking your wedding at or near a hotel or make sure you have a room block for your out of town guests.
---> Provide transportation if most of your guests are going to be coming from out of town.
---> Provide a variety of food options or choose a meal that is well-liked by a majority of your guests.

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Bleudog Fotography

We often forget that we have family and friends coming too and that while the wedding is all about us, it isn't all about us.

Because guess what makes the best wedding?

A wedding that is highly enjoyed and talked about by your guests for years to come!

You may have the most beautiful flowers (according to you) and the most delicious salmon (according to you), but if 90% of your guests are vegan and hate the color pink, then your wedding may not be the most talked about wedding in the books. And of course, who cares about that anyways if you married the love of your life, right?

I have a bride who has a friend you REALLY wants to do her hair for her wedding, but she wants to keep all family and friends off of her vendor list (as I always recommend). She wants her guests to enjoy the day and doesn't want any feelings to be hurt or friendships to be lost over a hairstyle she doesn't 100% love! And so, I have helped her come to the decision to be selfish, and tell her friend that she does not want her to do her hair on her wedding day, but because she wants her to be involved, has another special role she would like her to play at her ceremony.

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Bleudog Fotography

Selfish? Yes. Completely justified? Yes.

But the moral of the story is that there is a fine line between being selfless and selfish on your wedding day. You've got to understand that you have guests there supporting you and you want them to enjoy themselves too!

But at the end of the day, do not allow yourself to regret any choices you make. You get this day once, and only once, so whether you decide to make a selfless or selfish decision, make sure you have a very good reason why each and every decision was made.