Creating Your Own Reality

I know, I know. It is easier said than done. Planning a wedding is hard work - is is stressful, overwhelming, tiring, and a full-time job on top of your full time job. You have to plan the vendors, the timeline, budget out your earnings each month just to cover your costs, and plan all of the little details in between while you have your friends and family pulling you from every direction.

This absolutely sounds stressful, I completely agree with you! And just reading that first paragraph probably stressed you out even more than you were already overwhelmed with today's wedding to-do list.

But we are going to change that. We are going to turn those negative, overwhelming thoughts to positives.

Together, let's create a new reality.

Who is creating your reality?

You create your reality, your life, each and every day. Personally, I think that weddings are stressful, because society tells you it is stressful.

Think about it...if everyone you had ever met, every article you had ever read, and everything you had ever seen in regards to weddings was positive, upbeat, and altogether a happy occasion, even throughout planning, your mindset would be completely different. The idea that weddings are stressful and overwhelming wouldn't even cross your mind!

But wouldn't you be doing the same amount of work?

You would still have another full time job. You would still need to choose your perfect vendors. And you would still be working with a tight budget. But your overall mindset would be that this experience is positive. Those negative thoughts would not be there, because you wouldn't know any better.

What if from the time you were born, vegetables were delicious and dessert was disgusting? It would be hard to imagine the other way around but because our society has told us the opposite, our minds believe it.

Turn the negatives into positives!

Your mind is a very powerful thing, if you haven't already realized it. So if all of what I am saying is true, then why can you not create your own reality?

Why not turn your negatives into positive, each and every day of planning your wedding?

"My family is pulling me in every direction!"

While this sounds stressful, think of it as your loving family doing everything they can to help you and to make your wedding day as perfect as can be!

"It's so hard to choose my vendors...there are just too many options!"

I know that choosing your perfect vendors is difficult, but what if there was only one vendor in the whole world? You may or may not like their work so wouldn't that be even worse? Because there are hundreds of vendors out there to choose from, you have the opportunity to choose one that is absolutely perfect for your budget and your vision.

"It's like a full-time job! And I already have a full-time job!"

And your full-time job on top of full-time wedding planning: I know you say it's overwhelming, but isn't it nice to get a little break from your "real" full-time job and do some Pinterest perusing? Or getting a breath of fresh air on your lunch break speaking with that florist you totally cannot wait to book because of her beautiful work? Isn't it nice to be able to spend hours upon hours planning one of the most exciting, beautiful, and meaning days of your life?? I think so!

Create Your Own Happiness

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Because you have been told so, planning your wedding is just way too stressful. Your mind has turned every beautiful part of planning into a negative...just because they told you so.

But with every negative, there is always a positive...I promise! And with that powerful mind of yours, you can find it and make your experience a positive one.

It may rain, pour, or even thunder on your wedding day, but how amazingly unique and beautiful will your photos be?

You can find a positive in every single negative. So start every day, every moment, and your new life together with a positive mindset. You're setting the stage for the rest of your life.

The Best Trick You'll Ever Learn

It's Friday and I know you all have weekends to plan...or just weekends full of wedding planning! Am I right or am I right? Well either way, you're all busy so today will be short and sweet :)

A couple years back, I learned the best trick I could have ever learned. I use to use this trick a lot, like all of the time but recently, it has gotten lost somewhere in all of those brains. But earlier this week, it suddenly came back to me. I wasn't thinking about anything in particular, just day dreaming and it appeared out of thin air!

And then I realized, "Why haven't I been using this more!"

You see, I never used to associate this little trick of mine with weddings. But why not?? Honestly, I have no idea! But as it came back to me this week, I realized that this is the best tip I could ever give a bride. I have a lot of tips and tricks up my sleeve but this one...this one is the best of the best.

A little trick I call...

Sorry, I don't have a name for it but I will let you know when I think of a good one :) For now, we can call it:
"The Best Trick The Overwhelmed Bride Has Ever Taught Me."

I know, it's quite the name but I'm throwing it all on the table today!

While planning your wedding, there will be times that you will feel sad, upset, miserable, hurt, disappointed, over it, overwhelmed, and many more...all at the same time. And I can promise you one thing, keeping those negative thoughts is only going to make matters worse. Much much worse.

So without further ado, here is my trick:

Any time you are feel anything negative and you can't snap out of it, smile.

Alexandra Marie Photography

Alexandra Marie Photography

That is all there is to it! My trick is one word...smile. You don't even have to think about something happy, just turn that frown the other way, and it'll just come naturally!

You see, it is impossible to be mad and happy at the same time. And it is impossible to smile and be mad at the same time. It may sound hard to believe, but you need to try it for yourself! You can't try it out now, because you are probably very happy that is is Friday, but you can try it any time you are sad, mad, or unhappy about anything and I promise, it will work.

There's a catch...

Alexandra Marie Photography

Alexandra Marie Photography

Sounded too good to be true, right? Well here it is...

The second you stop smiling, the happiness will fade but as long as you keep a smile on your face, the negative energy will be completely forgotten!

Does it work for you?

It's worked for me and I think it can work for you! But we want to hear the results!

Next time you are in a bad mood, try our trick and take a pic and #thebesttricktheoverwhelmedbridehasevertaughtme :)

And with that, you will have the most amazing wedding planning experience, just as it should be!